God’s relationship with the nation of Israel was intended to be based on a mutual love that was reflected in the interaction between the two parties. Not long after they had been delivered from slavery in Egypt, Moses reminded the people of Israel:
“For you are a people holy to the Lord your God. The Lord your God has chosen you to be a people for his treasured possession, out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth. It was not because you were more in number than any other people that the Lord set his love on you and chose you, for you were the fewest of all peoples, but it is because the Lord loves you and is keeping the oath that he swore to your fathers, that the Lord has brought you out with a mighty hand and redeemed you from the house of slavery, from the hand of Pharaoh king of Egypt.”
Moses said that God had chosen the people of Israel because he loved them. The Hebrew word that is translated chosen, bachar (baw-kharˊ) “is used 30 times in Deuteronomy, all but twice referring to God’s ‘choice’ of Israel or something in Israel’s life.” Bachar is “a verb whose meaning is to take a keen look at, to prove, to choose. It denotes a choice, which is based on a thorough examination of the situation and not an arbitrary whim. Although the word rarely means to prove, it does communicate that sense in Isaiah 48:10, where it describes the way God tested Israel in order to make a careful choice: ‘I have tested you in the furnace of affliction’” (H977).
“God’s binding love for Israel is described as unmerited love (Deuteronomy 7:7)” (H2836). The Hebrew word that Moses used in Deuteronomy 7:8, ʾahabah (a-hab-awˊ) “signifies a powerful, intimate love between a man and a woman (Genesis 29:20; Song of Solomon 2:4, 5, 7); love between friends (2 Samuel 1:26); God’s love for His people (Isaiah 63:9; Hosea 3:1). Frequently, it is associated with forming a covenant, which enjoins loyalty (Deuteronomy 7:8)” (H160). David described his love for his friend Jonathan as extraordinary. David said in his lament after Jonathan’s death, “I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan; very pleasant have you been to me, your love to me was extraordinary, surpassing the love of women” (2 Samuel 1:26). The Hebrew word that is translated extraordinary, pala’ (paw-lawˊ) means “to do something wonderful, to do something extraordinary, or difficult. It frequently signifies the wondrous works of God, especially his deliverance and judgments (Exodus 3:20; Psalm 106:22; 136:4; Micah 7:15). The book of Hosea reveals that God’s extraordinary love for his chosen people wasn’t mutual. It says in Hosea 3:1, “And the LORD said to me, ‘Go again, love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the LORD loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins.”
The Song of Solomon depicts an extraordinary, mutual love between a man and woman in the context of human circumstances that interfere with them consummating their relationship. In the midst of their struggle to be together, the woman says to her companions, “I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the does of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases” (Song of Solomon 2:7). The Hebrew word that is translated stir up and awaken in this verse, ‘uwr (oor) has to do with seeing the naked truth or seeing things exactly as they are “through the idea of opening the eyes” (H5782). The connotation of the word ‘uwr suggests that love can be a harsh experience if the one who loves another is not prepared to see the person as he or she truly is. This sentiment is expressed by Hosea as he describes the LORD’s love for Israel in Hosea 11:1-11. In his conclusion of this section, Hosea indicated that the relationship between God and Israel would ultimately be restored, but the dynamic between these two parties was permanently altered because of Israel’s unfaithfulness (Hosea 11:10-11).
Part of the mystery and perhaps misunderstanding of the Song of Solomon is due to its context being human love. “The typical interpretation acknowledges the historical setting but believes that the characters and relationships are typical of Christ and the church” (Introduction to the Song of Solomon). This makes sense from the standpoint that Christ’s relationship with the church is referred to as a marriage (Revelation 19:7-8) and Paul compares Christ’s role to that of a husband and the church to a wife (Ephesians 5:23-27). The problem lies in trying to understand Christ’s relationship with the church from a human perspective with sexual intercourse being a primary objective. The thing that may be missed in this interpretation of the Song of Solomon is that the physical and emotional intimacy between the man and woman in Solomon’s song does not actually result in sexual intercourse.
The final chapters of the Song of Solomon focus on the union of the man and woman as husband and wife. The two are depicted as being together in the garden of love, but it is unclear what the husband and his bride are doing there. The woman says, “Let my beloved come to his garden, and eat its choicest fruits” (Song of Solomon 4:16) and then, “My beloved has gone down to his garden to the beds of spices, to graze in the gardens and to gather lilies. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he grazes among the lilies” (Song of Solomon 6:2-3). The Hebrew word that is translated grazes, raʿah (raw-awˊ) means “to tend a flock, i.e. pasture it…generally to rule.” The husband is in the role of a shepherd and is taking care of his flock in the garden of love when he and his bride are united. This seems to suggest that the church will be, is in the process of, or has already been united with Christ through the teaching of God’s word. When Paul talked about the roles of the husband and wife in his letter to the Ephesians and compared them to Christ and the church, it was in the context of purification through God’s word. Paul said:
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. (Ephesians 5:25-30)
Paul went on to talk about the mystery of two becoming one. Paul said, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:31-33). The mystery of two becoming one seems to revolve around the concept of sanctification and how God’s word cleanses us from our sins. If sin separates us from God, then being cleansed from our sin, or what is referred to in the Bible as sanctification, can be thought of as a process that brings us closer and closer to God until eventually there is nothing between us, believers are viewed by God and treated as a single entity with Christ.
Like the husband and wife who are physically joined together through sexual intercourse, the joining together of Christ and his church will result in spiritual ecstasy. The marriage supper of the Lamb, which is recorded in Revelation 19, includes a brief love song of praise that encapsulates this moment of ecstasy. Revelation 19:6-8 states:
Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out,
“Hallelujah!
For the Lord our God
the Almighty reigns.
Let us rejoice and exult
and give him the glory,
for the marriage of the Lamb has come,
and his Bride has made herself ready;
it was granted her to clothe herself
with fine linen, bright and pure”—for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.
The Greek word basileuo (bas-il-yooˊ-o), which is translated reigns in Revelation 19:6, refers to the co-reign of Christ and the church, the outcome of marriage supper of the Lamb. Basileuo is spoken of Christians multiple times in Revelation “who are to reign with Christ, i.e. enjoy the high privileges, honors, and felicity of the Messiah’s kingdom (Romans 5:17; Revelation 5:10; 20:4, 6; 22:5). Similar to the Song of Solomon, which concludes with the bride longing for her beloved, the final chapter of Revelation looks forward to Christ’s return. Jesus promises, “Behold, I am coming soon, bringing my recompense with me, to repay each one for what he has done” (Revelation 22:12) and in Revelation 22:17, it states, “The Spirit and the Bride say, ‘Come.’ And let the one who hears say, ‘Come.’ And let the one who is thirsty come; let the one who desires take from the water of life without price.”